What happens when you turn 30, and realize the life you are living isn’t what you expected?
You are single.
You have no children.
You want out of your job.
You don’t own a home.
You don’t have anything tying you to any specific place.
You aren’t sure exactly what you want out of life, but know what you’ve got isn’t what you want?
What do you do?
Well, let’s make this a little more specific.
What do I do when I wake up, realize I am not living the life I ever imagined?
Sure, my future has gone through many different versions: as a child, I dreamt of winning an Emmy for my dramatic performance on a soap opera (preferably “All My Children”); as a teen, it was being a sports reporter covering the NHL; and as a 20-something, I lived to become a power publicist in Las Vegas.
Now, at 30, what do I want for my now, for my future?
What I’m doing isn’t working for me. I have all of this passion, all of this unbridled desire to LIVE, but just haven’t been able to put my finger on exactly how to accomplish this. Until now.
Since my return from Croatia, I have teetered between sanity and tears (bless you, Mom and Dad and my inner-circle of amazing friends), a career change and a life change. This is what I have lovingly dubbed my 30 Life Crisis. Easily defined, a 30 Life Crisis is the point where one wakes up on their 30th birthday (or close to it) and wonders just what the hell is going on. A person can clearly recognize where they are in their life and can understand how they got to that point, but also comes to the realization they want like hell to change it. For those who are nodding in agreement and living this moment, embrace it. Enjoy it. Make a change.
After months of research, weighing my options and learning from my travel peers what works and what doesn’t, I have decided to take an oh-so-scary step to infuse my passion with my daily living and quit my job, put my life in storage, foster my cats (shout out to Megan P.), and GET LIVING.
Not to stop the Croatia story in its tracks (promise, it will continue and lead up to this post and beyond) but I am too excited to not make this announcement:
I have booked my flights for my upcoming solo
backpacking adventure through
Europe and North Africa.
Stay tuned, The Adventures of D takes a whole new turn on Sunday, March 7 when I leave for London. My return ticket is for Fall 2010 out of Zagreb, Croatia, but I don’t have to take it …
Ah, 30 Life Crisis, I do love you so.
And, while I don’t expect traveling to solve my crisis, I do expect to learn more about me. About other people. And, most important of all, about life.
In the words of the travel agent who just booked my flight: “Little one, find yourself and tell me about it.”
48 Comments on "A BRIEF intermission: My 30 Life Crisis … solved?"
good for you girl! love it! look forward to reading about your adventures!
Thank you!! I look forward to sharing. Starting with what a pain in the arse it is to get all of your stuff together in order to leave the country for a extended period of time. At least I know it will be worth it!
WOW – congrats and well done! My mid-20′s crisis is what was responsible for my move to Europe and here I still am, 3.5 years later! While it can be difficult, it’s so worth it, and hey -you can ALWAYS come home! Can’t wait to read about your adventures/
Oooh!! You got to stay? That’s awesome!! My Quarter Life Crisis landed me in Las Vegas, but that’s another story for another time. Thanks so much for the note! Where are you? I’m thinking I should get off the train in your town and say hello!
I’m in London now after three years in Paris. Would love to meet up when you get here – we’ll have to stay in touch!
YES!! Will be there March 7 through ??? Trying to get involved in Hadrian’s 500 torch event. Looking forward to meeting you!
I already knew you were doing this but this post still makes me really happy! I think it takes a lot of strength and wisdom to look at your life, realize it isn’t working for you and make such a radical change.
It’s not always easy but I think it will be a great thing for you and I can’t wait to hear about it!
Thank you so much for the comment! Reading what you wrote makes me smile. I can’t wait to share my stories. And, I can’t wait to hear about your travels, too! I hope we can grab a drink before I cross the Atlantic.
I don’t know, an NHL reporter would have been pretty damn sweet
Best damn sport. But anyways, yea, good on ya for having the spine to step out of the american dream mold and take a look around. I’m looking forward to hearing how it all goes. And as an anonymous internet stranger I can promise you that you won’t regret this decision 
Ah, yes. Being an NHL reporter would have been pretty damn sweet. I guess I’m rebelling against corproate America, like so many others embarking on their own amazing and fabulous journeys. And, as an anonymous internet stranger, I appreciate the time you took to post a comment. And your reassurance that I wont regret the decision.
Good points, I think I will definitely subscribe! I’ll go and read some more! What do you see the future of this being?
Not sure yet … will tell the tales of my adventures …
I burned out in PR after being the power publicist in LA then NYC as well – I think while it starts out exciting; the pace, the pay, the bitchy people and doing the same thing again and again gets old.
Kudos Diana. You are doing something that will open your eyes and change who you are as a person. You are brave and I admire you.
Thank you so much for the sweet words, Heidi. It means a lot.
Yes yes yes!!! I LOVE seeing people do this rather than sit around and mope about what could be. Geeeeez. I feel like forcing some of my friends to read this entry so they can stop whining. Excited for you!
Ha ha. Thank you! Send it to ‘em.
I love you so much and I have the unique privilege to have known you through your acting years, sports journalism years, and PR years. Get out there and discover whatever it is you’ve been itching to find out about the world.
Thanks Mama. I love you, too.
Huge congrats!! That is such an empowering step – I remember the thrill and fear when I booked a one-way to Australia with no set plan but a life crisis bubbling up
Can’t wait to follow your journey!
Thank you! I used miles to book my trip, otherwise that ticket would surely be one-way! I can’t wait to start my journey. Although, I guess in a way, it’s already begun.
I have three (very over used words) for you.
YOU GO GIRL!
Sorry to have to go there with that age old adage, but it fits.
U simply rock and I am honored to call you “friend”. Will C U for sure somewhere in the world. Can’t wait…
Let the adventures begin.
Stef
Stef, thank you so much for the comment. It means a lot to me. Um, if I don’t see you during this trip, we’ve got a problem. Here’s to merging adventures somewhere in the very near future!
Good work I can’t wait to read about what you get up too and hopefully catch up with you in Europe when I get over there in June.
I reached my 30 Life Crisis at 28 and am lucky that I just happened to find myself in a situation that would allow me to escape Australia without too much hassle.
Lucky you for getting to the 30LC early. I think I hit it right when I turned 29, but it took the events this year to really light a fire and get me going. Look forward to meeting you!
I’m so excited for you! I’ve got a book which has been passed around between me and my 2 sisters: The Quarterlife Crisis. It describes your same emotions!
I thought I coined the phrase Quarter Life Crisis when I first turned 25. Turns out everyone goes through it. Which makes me feel much better. Only different between QLC and 30LC is I am going far, far away, versus a few thousand miles. Thanks for the note. And, can’t wait to meet ya!
The first thing a person should do when they wake up at any point in their life and realize that they are not living the life they dreamed of….is to CELEBRATE! It is time to make a change!
It is better to make this realization at any age, than never make it at all, so consider yourself way ahead of the game.
I’m excited to see where the journey takes you…and I love that you said you don’t have to take your return flight home in the fall…you definitely have the right mindset!
Where have I been? I meant to view your site, glad I finally have! I can relate to all your feelings even though I’m a few years older than you.
On that note, if you’re cool with this, I’m adding you to my linkroll.
Whatever happens, change will occur – its all good!
Absolutely! You are on mine as well!
found your web site on del.icio.us and genuinely like it.. i bookmarked it and will be back to check it out some more more later ..
Thank you so much for taking the time to leave a comment. I am glad you like it.
Feel free to subscribe so you get the posts sent to you instead of having to check to see when it’s updated.
Congrats on taking the plunge on the best decision you’ve ever made in your life! I can totally relate to all the pre-trip emotions and know what an anxious/exciting time it is. I’m on month 4 of my 14-month trip and am enjoying the daily adventures. Looking forward to watching your journey unfold!
Thank you!! Do our schedules intersect at all during our travels?
I think I’m going to hit my 30-life crisis next year (at 42). Just RSSd you and will try and read this in chrono order. Apols for turning up late – nice post!
Thanks for the note! Enjoy the read!! It’s been a long, amazing journey! And, live up that 30LC. It’s the best thing to ever happen to me!
DE! It has been way too long since i visited your website, but I’m loving it. And, after just reading this, I think I am entering my 30 Life Crisis with less than a month in my 20s. Oh where the road shall take me.
much love to you. A.
Ooof, you are getting old. J/K. The 30LC isn’t so bad!! Promise. See you sooooon!! xx
Let’s hear it for the 30 life crisis! Mine happened at 32 and led me to 2 years of traveling and the seed planted for more!
YAY for the 30LC!!
Believe it or not, I was 30 and in the same position as you (well I was 29 and getting ready to turn 30). I also did what you did – I went to Europe. When I got back, life changed and has never been the same since! Don’t think things are so bad at 30 in that situation – there is PLENTY of life and good times ahead!
For sure!! I am SO thankful I did what I did when I did it! It has left me wanting more though …
Pretty sure you agree when I say doing what we did was the best decision we could ever make. 
My 30′s crisis led to a round the world trip through more than 40 countries for almost3 years, a blog and a 500 page book written in English which is not my native language.
So yeah, That was kind of a turning point.
Good job, Neil!
I found this to be a hugely inspiring article – very honest writing. Thank you for posting, D.
Emma
Thank you, Emma!!
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